What Makes A Marriage Diminish?

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A happy marriage is about 3 things. Forgiveness, forgiveness, and forgiveness.

“I told you I didn’t want to go out this evening.

This is very important to me, you being there would mean a lot. I said no! Whenever I ask you to do something with me, you always say no”.

I was scrolling through one of the other social media platforms the other day and someone asked the question. What makes a marriage diminish?

The first thing that ran through my head, was things that make you go umm!

Arguments, misunderstandings, unforgiveness, selfishness, or just being mad.

What happened to the friendship in our marriage? What happened to what brought us together in the first place. Being friends!

Then you ask yourself, What happened to us? When did we stop recognizing each other?

When I think about us, I have a lot of I remember. I remember when we did, this. I remember when we went to places and had fun!

It’s like what we as a couple had has disappeared, never existed.

Can we talk?

Can we sit down and talk like we use to. Can we play Spades, Uno, Monopoly? With you retiring real soon, can we sit down and talk about our dreams and aspirations? Can we make plans to enjoy each other's company like we use to? Or will we be that couple who lives in the same house but nobody is home?

I am not asking you to find a way to be my friend. I am suggesting you reach inside of yourself and tap into the friendship that has always been there.

• Becoming friends allowed us to build trust.
• Becoming friends makes it easier for us to forgive.
• Becoming friends kept us laughing.
• Becoming friends enucleated more patience.
• Becoming friends is the reason why we fell in love.
• Becoming friends started it all, it got us married.

This should be a no-brainer!

If you care and you want to stay together and make your marriage work. Research says, people who say they married their best friend, are more likely to be happier and more satisfied with their life. Someone who knows the true you can be good for your health.

I say, let us remember the friendship that brought us together in the first place my friend!