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Why You Should Never Want To Go Through Your Partner's Phone!
1 Thessalonians 4:11 and aspire to live quietly, mind your affairs, and work with your hands, as we instructed you.
Seriously! “You want me to allow YOU! To go through my phone?” What is this going to prove? Are you saying why you feel the need to go through my phone will give you a sense of satisfaction you will gain that is more powerful than your trust in me?
I’m Confused
Two grown people are in a relationship, One of the two feels the need to go through their mate's phone. The nerve! Violating one’s privacy. Just because you and I are in a relationship doesn’t mean that my privacy seeks to exist.
It also speaks volumes about telling your partner/mate they don’t trust you. This is a recipe for disaster and the beginning of the end of your relationship. It also says you don’t even trust yourself.
Psychotherapist and neuromarketing strategist Michele Paiva brings to our attention that people will say that your mate/partner can’t be trusted. But the truth is people who go through your phone and check your text messages are the one who feels like they are not enough. They need to search for validation.
YOU Need To Shut That Down Immediately.
You are entitled to have your personal space. Just because you are in a relationship doesn’t mean your partner owns you and your personal space.
Explain to them if they don’t trust you then you and them do not need to be together. People like that take the fun out of being in a relationship. Relationships are not a parent/child thing. You as a parent check your children’s phones. Grown people do not need to be checking other grown people’s phones.
In all my relationships I never had the desire to check my man’s/men’s phone, first of all, that is his private business. “I am aware before he met me he knew a lot of people and yes a lot of them are women. I don’t expect him to stop speaking to them because he is with me. That is ridiculous and a good way to start trouble in a relationship.” They never asked me to go through my phone. I never felt the need to go through their phone or ask them if I could. “Thoughts like that shouldn’t even cross your mind”.
